Love is in the Air

When you think of February what's the first thing that comes to your mind? Red, 2nd month of the year, Valentine's Day, love .....?? Those are the first things that popped into Austin's mind when I asked him. Love being the last one he mentioned. Well, love is the first thing that enters my mind when February rolls around the corner, besides Ground Hog Day. The second best day of the year. (If spring is coming early).

This month, Kerry and I went to a marriage conference, hosted by our church. February, known as the month of love, was the perfect time of year to have one. We've never really went to one, so we thought we would try this year. A couple from North Carolina led it. I honestly couldn't tell you their names.

I am going to try and share with you some of the things I learned. The first night (Friday), we watched the movie "Fireproof". Kerry and I had never seen the movie and had been wanting to. For those of you, who have not seen it, and are married or are planning on getting married sometime, it is definitely worth watching.
I won't go into detail about the movie, but in short, a married couple drifts apart from each other and blames the other for their failing marriage. It is definitely worth watching. We had to go home that night with homework. We had to say to the other, one habit that bothered us and that we would like for them to change. It actually took me a while to think, (there are so many). No, just kidding. But it did take a little time to think. Kerry said he had to think also. I'm not going to tell you what the other was, so stop thinking it. It was a great assignment to say the least.

The couple had pulled their material, from several books. One of them was called "Men are Like Waffles, Women are Like Spaghetti". I could stop there, but I shall continue. Men process life in boxes while women process life through connections. Women connect everything in life to everything else, hence spaghetti. Success is such a strong motivation for men that they seek out boxes that work and ignore boxes that confuse them or make them feel like a failure. Most men have blank boxes with no words or thoughts. After I heard that, I remember shaking my head and thinking, now it all makes sense and at the same time thinking, I wonder what the boys are doing? Are they behaving? Is Missy home yet. Am I going to get up in the morning? I wonder what should I wear? Where are we going to eat tomorrow night? Should I say more.....????

We also had to fill out little, question and answer pages about our spouse. What we knew about them and what we would like to learn from them. We filled out this one profile called "The five love languages". You had to circle either A, B, C, D or E. Than you add all the columns and whatever letter you have the most, that indicates your primary love language. No, I'm not going to tell you that one either. If anyone wants a copy of any of the questionaires, let me know and I'll send it to you.

Kerry and I will be married for 20 years this August. I can honestly say, I learned a lot. We left this conference with our marriage a little bit stronger. God has truely blessed me with a wonderful man. I hope everyone will some day be as blessed and happy as I am.